26 April 2011
so, allow me to share some of the most romantic pieces from my most favorite films.
“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours. “ – The Notebook (2004)
Spongebob: "What do you usually do when I'm gone?"
Patrick: "Wait for you to come back."
"I am just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her." - Nothing Hill (1999)
"Tell me how I should be. Just tell me. I'll do it." (Blue Valentine)
(The Wedding Singer)
20 April 2011
12 April 2011
I believe you have heard about the shooting drama happened last weekend in a small town in the Netherlands, called Alphen aan de Rijn.
The morning of Monday 11 April, all headlines of the national newspapers were: WAAROM? (or WHY?)
I reckon this headline can go with any bad circumstances in our lives: a relative passed away, continuous financial problems, jobless situation, tsunami, war, poverty, breaking up after having been together for a long time, your partner is cheating on you,... you name it!
That's often what we ask when something bad happens in our lives. We try to find the reason why such bad things happen: is it my fault? did I do something wrong? is it God's punishment? did s/he actually love me? am I not good enough? am I stupid? is it karma?
And we are often stuck in this drama of asking why, of finding explanation to what happen to us, to our society.
I guess what we need to ask instead is How? or What can I do to change this circumstance?
Finding solution would be better than finding reasoning.
How? will give us a sense of hope: a hope that there is actually a way to make things better, to change the situation.
Anyway, I am telling you this because I am at the situation where I could have cried out to heaven asking WHY? but I, trying to be very optimistic, replace the question with How?
And to be honest, it ain't easy, but it works!
7 April 2011
Have you seen this film called Blue Valentine?
If you haven't, you should! In fact, you must.
Blue Valentine ain't a chick flick or drama comedy that is just like any other chick flick or drama comedy.
This film makes you think, make you ponder about relationship, love, marriage, courtship,...
This film makes you question: when the love has gone, what should you do?
The funny thing is that Stefy and I watched this film when we celebrated our one decade anniversary (yes, you read it correctly, one decade, 10 YEARS!). During the film, I kept asking myself, would it also happen in my marriage?
In the end, Stefy and I had an interesting discussion about this film, about our relationship, and what we should and shouldn't do to prevent having similar issue.
We can conclude, in the end, that falling in love is easy, staying in love is challenging, yet it is possible :)
Despite the gloomy feeling after watching the movie, we both love the soundtrack!
6 April 2011
5 April 2011
Sadness and difficult moments often get me to open WordPad and write. Like now!
This is that very time when I feel really down and again question what I should do.
Yesterday, I tweeted: I know that God is good, but why do I often misunderstood His goodness? A friend replied by tweeting: So that we will be surprised and amazed by His helping hand.
This difficult time is, I guess the most difficult of all, yet this time I know better: blaming God is never the anwer. Questioning Him is frustating. Worrying is a waste of time.
But, what should I do?
I don't have a clue! What I know is that I need to stay positive, think straight, find a solution, do my best, and let God to take care of the rest.
God is working mysteriously. Like Rowan Atkinson in his film Keeping Mum said: God's mysetrious, deal with it!
Your prayer, support, encouragement, tweets, message, comments, or anything,... will be very much appreciated.