21 December 2011
22 November 2011
Nothing against marriage or pregnancy, I am just celebrating the fact that I am still single (but no longer available, alas :P) and no extra baggages to look after.
Well, I should enjoy this state while I can by doing some travelling, pampering myself, going out more, and learning new things. Never would I stop doing those things, but I reckon when you have extra baggages, you will be more considerate.
Let me know if I am wrong :)
But let me enjoy my moment,... *I can hear myself singing "hallelujah!"*
13 November 2011
While I am still struggling to get my first book done (yes, I have very limited time and sometimes uninspired :( ), I got to take part in 11 projects 11 days by NulisBuku.com
I sent 3 flash fictions and all 3 fictions are published in the 3 diffrent books, titled Menari (dance), Cemburu (jealousy), and Bimbang (doubt).
These are two of them
You can buy them via www.nulisbuku.com
I am so proud! And I am even more motivated to get my first book done. Please wish me luck!
27 October 2011
And according to the BBC world, i am the 4,815,122,350th person.
You know what amazes me? That I still matters in this world. At least I know I do matter for my family, my close friends, and for my work (otherwise they would have fired me by now :P). And I know that I matter in God's eyes.
That also amazes me, that I am the 4 billionth something person in this world, yet I still matter and yet God still knows me by name.
25 October 2011
12 October 2011
Although I always said that I would NEVER be dependant on this smart phone, I panicked a bit when my Blackberry didn't work on Monday. First, because my main communication tool to maintain the long distance relationship is indeed Blackberry. Second because I am always scared when my phone died (after the prior experience of Blackberry crash when I was in Indonesia for holiday).
But apparently it is not me, it is Blackberry. They have this problem with the server because of data server switch (or something similar). The problem started in Europe, spread to Middle East and Africa, and I heard today Brazil, India and possible US are also affected.
So yeah, Blackberry #fails!
But the funny thing is to see how we have become so attached, so addicted to this modern device. In the past, we could have been simply happy with the postcards and post mails. And what even funnier is, true story, I totally forgot that there is another feature on your phone, apart from the internet, social media and (blackberry) messengers. It's called SMS! Haven't used it in a while :P
This below is a funny comment I encountered on Blackberry Facebook page:
To all those affected by the BlackBerry blackout: they suggest you use the call function that came with your BB handset. Apparently, when you "call", you can actually hear an audible voice on the other end. How cool is that!?
A lady on the news earlier mentioned something about a thing called an "SMS". Apparently that is another way of communication, however I'll have to Google and get back to you all on that.
For my Indonesian readers who have problems with delay and no signal, I would say "lucky you! it is nearly 3 days that we don't have Blackberry service at all!"
and for Blackberry, go fix it, dudes!
25 September 2011
This four days event was basically about trying out food and learning how to make new, interesting food. We came on the last day, which appeared to be the most beautiful day of the week. The sun was shining and the temperature was perfect! So, you can imagine how packed it was.
We went around trying wine, beer, cognac, limoncello, cocktails (oh wait, it was only me that did that :P), and of course, we tried lots of food. If I still can remember (I might forget things not because the intake of the alcohol, but because the many sorts of food we could taste),
we tasted the tastiest tomato,
raw seafood mixed with red onion and lime (peruvian food),
the yummiest spare ribs,
english pie (my nostalgic snack),
biologic cookies (that cost 1 euro per cookie, yes, you read it correctly!), vegetarian sandiwich spread, margaritha pizza with truffle oil, colombian coffee, many sorts of olive oil (just knew this, loved it but the price is killing!), the tastiest bread on earth (seriously, and we bought one, which cost 6 euro per small bread :( expensive!), chai tea, chocolate mousse,... and many more.
So, this weekend has been very successfull, but too bad we couldnt join any cooking workshop, due to the crowd. Next time, for sure!
How was your weekend?
If you are curious about the biologic cookies, you should check their website Katie's Cookies. I reckon it is an interesting gift for any occassions, or just for you to nibble :)
And the English pie?? there's definitely a second purchase!! Love it! Wanna check them, go to Pieman.
23 September 2011
Yeah, that's a disgrace, I know. But well, without my fiancee being around, and me suffering long distance relationship AGAIN, I should learn to entertain myself, no?
So, these following things are main activities now
1. Drie dwaze dagen game
This is an online game created for the promotion of the biggest and craziest shopping sales at the famous, dutch department store, de bijenkorf (comparable to Sogo, in Indonesia).
Yes, yes, it is shallow, but well, I have never been a game player, but it's kinda fun and addictive. The rule is very simple. You need to fight to be on the first person on this virtual queue :P
2. Masterchef Australia and cooking and baking :)
Am a huge fan of masterchef australia (especially a big fan of Poh from season 1), and also into cooking and baking lately.
Weekend has always been the time to experiment with the new recipe or perform some adventurous attempts with some leftovers. I enjoy it! I am currently planning cooking vacation with my colleague and in fact, this weekend, my housemate and I are going to a cooking workshop. Cool, ey?
Have I ever told you I am so into Bikram Yoga now? Yes, I am very into yoga now. I am preaching bikram to my friends and relatives, sharing my positive experience (though it was reallllyy tough in the beginning) with bikram. At least twice a week, you would find me in bikram studio.
4. and mostly work.
It started as my escape to forget my loneliness at home, but I am into work now, especially with a challenging, new manager of mine. I am mostly at work, also when I am at home, sometimes. But not on the weekend.
Do you know that my company is sponsoring McLaren Formula 1? Yay! I'm so proud! :)
So, my life is interesting, or what?!
8 September 2011
6 September 2011
24 August 2011
But reading the article by Thought Catalogue has made me realise how bad this series has lied to all women in the world. You can read the 5 Lies Carrie Bradshaw told me and decide yourself whether you have been deceived, too.
As for me, number two is the biggest lie. Darn!
2. You can thrive financially in the city just by writing a column a week about your life
Perhaps the most unrealistic aspect of the show was Carrie’s lax work schedule. Homegirl only had to write one column a week in a crappy newspaper and still managed to make rent, buy designer clothing, and eat out at fabulous restaurants. No wonder she had to whore herself out to Mr. Big. She needed to make ends meet! I always wondered why the emotionally unavailable old fart was even an option in her love life. Then I saw his apartment, his limos, and his general “I’m going to pay you to have sex with me” attitude and immediately understood. My favorite episode of the series is when they acknowledge that Carrie is terrible with money and none of her friends want to lend her money. It was a rare moment of honesty for the show, a real unusual dose of reality for the otherwise fantasy-obsessed plot. Of course, her debt and impending doom was quickly fixed by a band-aid and a blowjob to Mr. Big but whatever.
But I guess I'd still look forward to the 3rd SATC movie or the possible comeback of the SATC series (the seventh season), or even the possible making of prequel of SATC starring Blake Lively. It is the kind of show that will make you laugh, cry, be amazed (by those beautiful dresses and shoes) and mock (for the stupid facts or lies) almost at the same time. But that's entertainment, right? :)
via Thought Catalogue
23 August 2011
18 August 2011
Being abroad, I didn't celebrate it at all, really, but I was really involved in many different tweets around this topic. I was trying to find the best outfit to show that it was my independence day celebratory attempt, but alas, I couldn't find any red top to go with my white jeans (and no, I am against red trousers).
Thus yes, I wasn't very nasionalist, but,.. having said that, my interest of Indonesia, specifically Indonesian politics has grown stronger every day.
It all started in 2009, when the recession struck almost every nation, and Indonesian seemed to be doing just fine. Sri Mulyani was the woman behind the new, tough tax regulation. Being the minister of finance at that time, she did a quite serious reformation in the ministry of finance.
I adored her effort and her vision to make Indonesian citizens to have trust in their government again. This is what was, and still is lacking. Are you familiar with a saying that went "if you want to make a difference start from you"? She really walked this saying; she walks the talk.
I have no respect to politicians, or basically anyone, who couldn't walk the talk, or who have big mouth, yet with no action. I prefer to see someone, who maybe starts from a little steps, but these little steps could make a big impact. And I guess that's what Sri Mulyani did. She made a small adjustment in her ministry, yet it made a huge impact to Indonesia, to the world, in fact.
And this has made even bigger impact to some mafia in Indonesia, who were not happy at all, and who could successfully made SBY (read: Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono) letting Sri Mulyani go - as the after effect of the Century case. What a pity! This scenario really made her perceived as the culprit.
To be honest, my respect to Sri Mulyani grew even stronger after seeing her being slaughtered during the Century meeting. Her bravery, courage and patience really made her appeared as the intellegence among the lost ones. I think I would break into pieces when I would be in her stead.
Luckily, some people, who have heart and integrity, knew what was exactly going on. And luckily, I met these people and they have become my close friends ever since - both online and offline ;)
Most of these "good guy" people are now getting ready for the next election in 2014. They believe fully in Sri Mulyani, as much as I do, and they are sure that Sri Mulyani can contribute more to Indonesia, by being the next president.
There are people, who currently doubt that she would be picked in 2014 (or some even doubt whether she is willing to be a president). But the choice is yours. You have a saying in this. Do you think she is capable or not? Why mind other people's business?
So, merdeka! Let us be free to make choices, and to contribute to better Indonesia. I am sure Sri Mulyani is not the only good person in Indonesia. I know for sure there are numerous Indonesian people who are good and who can make a difference. Support them, or even better, be one of them. Believe in them, or even better, believe in yourself.
Believe, that Indoensia, one day, will be better.
9 August 2011
isn't our life a bit sad?
I wonder maybe I should just be a stay at home mom and enjoy my life more? And write books for sure! :)
Still feel guilty that I haven't had the chance to finish my first book I promised to Ega to be published in his self-publishing site. I am sorry, my inspiration is no longer my inspiration, unfortunately (#nomention)
So, the morale of this blog post, I guess, is to try to enjoy your life more? or for me, it'd be to live as healthy as possible so that when I am old, I will still be active and have energy like those old, dutch people, who still travel from Timbuktu to North Pole! :)
5 August 2011
4 August 2011
1 August 2011
And long distance relationship has never been so difficult.
I remember when I first signed up for this challenge in the year of 2002, the first time I left Stefy to go to the Netherlands. As far as I could remember it, it wasn't this hard!
I guess what makes this time so different is our commitment. In the past, we were still in a dating-for-fun kinda commitment. Yet, we are now more certain about our future plan. And also we've been together in the same city for these past 3 years. That's why it is so much harder now.
That's why the appearance of this link to an article on my Facebook Wall this morning was very appealing. Not that it eased the difficulty of my long distance relationship, but this article could have been an answer for my loneliness, if I chose to :P
The most niche (and bizarre) sites for finding love on the Internet
Apart from my several attempts to find an online boyfriend through mIRC when I was still in junior high - which was never a success - I never tried any online dating sites. So, this link somehow has struck me and made me read the article.
And to my surprise, like there are lots of magazines for different niche markets, there are indeed also a lot of online dating sites for different,
If I ever had signed up for any of these online dating sites, my first choice would have been for Brainiac Dating or Seek a Geek. Who knew I would have come across someone like Leonard or Sheldon :P
But if I would have been braver, I would have signed in at Savage Heart. But the intro text does sound a bit kinky, doesn't it?
But no, I won't replace Stefy with any online freak I would have met via online dating site. I don't say that all online dating sites are no good. It's just not for me, I guess.
For you who have met your soulmate via online dating site, lucky you!
28 July 2011
And how often do you get this from your close friend of even your boyfiend or girlfriend, or your partner, or your husband or your family?
I find it kinda disturbing when people don't really have opinion, especially if they are quite close to you.
Especially when it comes to choosing place to go, or place to eat.
A: Where are we going for dinner?
B: Up to you
A: What do you want to eat?
B: Um,.. I don't know. Up to you.
B: Umm,.. we went there last week!
B: Hm, it's crowded on thursday evening
B: Oh, come on, we can cook Indonesian ourselves!
A: .... *not talking anymore*
Why don't you just say what you want! and even if it means not going anywhere for dinner, it'd be better than saying 'up to you!'
I guess living in a country, where the people are very direct, has taught me to express what I think or what I feel. And I kinda expect people to do the same.
Don't you think the world would be a better place if there is no such thing like back-stabbing, talking behind your back, gossipping,... And I guess all it starts with honesty and expressing your true opinion.
What do you think?
25 July 2011
Well, I was very proud and positive about this umbrella, until it was broken 2 weeks ago. I wouldn’t blame the product, though, because the wind was too strong, coming from many different sides.
When my umbrella was R.I.P, all I could do was sobbing inside. It wasn’t an easy decision to buy this umbrella. Due to the abnormal price for one piece of mini umbrella, I had to think a lot before buying it; but finally I bought it!
I was overly positive about it. I promoted to my colleagues who had frustration about their broken umbrella. But not after 2 weeks ago! I was sad and regretted my decision buying this too expansive umbrella, yet still broken in the end.
As a social media geek, I thought, hmm,.. let’s try to find Senz Twitter or Facebook account. Just for fun, I googled Senz’ Twitter and Facebook account, and I found them! I tweeted about my problem, and they replied (quite quickly!). And see the picture below:
YES!! I am going to get a replacement, a new Senz umbrella!!
All I had to do was to send the pictures of my broken Senz (luckily I didn’t throw it away. I guess it was because I was still hoping that I could fix it somehow) to the customer service e-mail address.
Within 2 days, I got a reply saying that I should be able to show my receipt, as it is the warranty certificate of Senz. WOOoot?!
I was quite upset, because first I didn’t know that receipt serves as warrant certificate. No one told me when I bought it at de Bijenkorf (or did it say on the product information attached with the product? If you have Senz please check to confirm). And I bought it almost 2 years ago!
Well, I didn’t hope too much. I thought, most Dutch companies don’t really do replacement and nice things for the customer after all. So I wrote back: “thank you. I didn’t keep the receipt though; but I hope that I could still receive a new senz umbrella, as it was tweeted to me. It would be very nice.”
I was sad.
Last weekend, I was umbrella-less, and it was pouring very hard.
This morning, the sky showed some indication that it’d be raining. And again, I was umbrella-less. I thought: I might just buy a cheap Hema umbrella later in the evening.
Yet, not long after that thought, I got an e-mail from Senz.
And this is Senz' replied I received this morning. Some details have been hidden due to privacy reason :)
So now it is the real YES! I just used the coupon to buy myself a new mini, blessing of the rain, Senz umbrella.
Thank you Senz! You have definitely exceeded my expectation.
And for you who own (or who want to buy one) Senz umbrella, here are some tips to keep it safe and to be prepared if it is broken:
- When you know the wind is too strong (especially when the weather forecast says the wind is level 7), just don’t use the umbrella. This is how I got my Senz broken.
- Open it carefully. A friend of mine got his switch button broken because he pushed it too hard when trying to open the umbrella (too bad he threw his umbrella away already)
- Keep the receipt! I was lucky that I still got the replacement, but for next time, just keep the receipt, as it serves as warranty certificate.
- Be patient and be positive about social media. Some friends were laughing at my effort, but yay, I prove them wrong!
- And marketing tips, as I am a marketing person myself, try to do just like Senz. In the era of social media, people are constantly talking about your brand. What you’ve got to do is to talk back and exceed their expectations.
So, well done Senz!
For more info about the product go to Senz Umbrella website
And it has also been more than 2 weeks that I have res-entered to the LDR - long distance relationship. I couldn't believe myself for doing it all over again. After being in LDR for almost 5 years, I remembered making an oath not to be in this cruel LDR cycle again!
But here I am, or let's say here we are, again.
If you ask how I am so far, I'd say on the weekdays, it's okay. But on the weekend, this is when the emptiness started to creep in.
Missing him is not the worst, thanks to the technology (do I hear a Hallelujah?), but his presence is really missed. Since we lived in the same city, he often was at home cooking dinner for me. Or we often went for movie or dining when we felt like it (or when the weather allowed).
And weekends were always our favorite! We went to traditional market, experimented with some recipes, went window shopping, made little trip, or visited some friends. It's always been a busy weekend, which we also ALWAYS regretted on the Monday.
But now, it is simply me, my books, and tons of TV series. I do still like to try out some recipes, but it's just simply to fill my hungry tummy. With Stefy around, I tried out recipes to pamper him.
To conclude, it's so far so good, then. It's been worse. I think we kinda used to LDR; thus this time it ain't that hard, especially the communication part (Again, Hallelujah to technology!).
Wish me luck, ok? :)
By the way, I found this book. Interesting. Anyone have read this book?
13 June 2011
If you miss me, just drop a comment here :P
or if you are in Indonesia, we can always try to arrange a meeting
Although, I'll have limited access to my digital life.
24 May 2011
where work overlaps with fun, sadness, stress, holiday, travelling,...
I am currently experiencing so many different things at the same time, which make me unable to feel any particular feeling for a long time.
I take this as a benefit, as I don't really linger on my sadness or stresss too long.
Next month I am going back to indonesia for holiday, and Stefy is going back for good. This is not a good thing. I hate another farewell, another long-distance relationship.
C'est la vie
Starting July, this blog will be filled with some stories about long-distance, about sadness, about our fight, but maybe also filled with some stories about our preparation for the wedding :)
How are you all? How's life treating you?
26 April 2011
so, allow me to share some of the most romantic pieces from my most favorite films.
“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours. “ – The Notebook (2004)
Spongebob: "What do you usually do when I'm gone?"
Patrick: "Wait for you to come back."
"I am just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her." - Nothing Hill (1999)
"Tell me how I should be. Just tell me. I'll do it." (Blue Valentine)
(The Wedding Singer)
20 April 2011
12 April 2011
I believe you have heard about the shooting drama happened last weekend in a small town in the Netherlands, called Alphen aan de Rijn.
The morning of Monday 11 April, all headlines of the national newspapers were: WAAROM? (or WHY?)
I reckon this headline can go with any bad circumstances in our lives: a relative passed away, continuous financial problems, jobless situation, tsunami, war, poverty, breaking up after having been together for a long time, your partner is cheating on you,... you name it!
That's often what we ask when something bad happens in our lives. We try to find the reason why such bad things happen: is it my fault? did I do something wrong? is it God's punishment? did s/he actually love me? am I not good enough? am I stupid? is it karma?
And we are often stuck in this drama of asking why, of finding explanation to what happen to us, to our society.
I guess what we need to ask instead is How? or What can I do to change this circumstance?
Finding solution would be better than finding reasoning.
How? will give us a sense of hope: a hope that there is actually a way to make things better, to change the situation.
Anyway, I am telling you this because I am at the situation where I could have cried out to heaven asking WHY? but I, trying to be very optimistic, replace the question with How?
And to be honest, it ain't easy, but it works!
7 April 2011
Have you seen this film called Blue Valentine?
If you haven't, you should! In fact, you must.
Blue Valentine ain't a chick flick or drama comedy that is just like any other chick flick or drama comedy.
This film makes you think, make you ponder about relationship, love, marriage, courtship,...
This film makes you question: when the love has gone, what should you do?
The funny thing is that Stefy and I watched this film when we celebrated our one decade anniversary (yes, you read it correctly, one decade, 10 YEARS!). During the film, I kept asking myself, would it also happen in my marriage?
In the end, Stefy and I had an interesting discussion about this film, about our relationship, and what we should and shouldn't do to prevent having similar issue.
We can conclude, in the end, that falling in love is easy, staying in love is challenging, yet it is possible :)
Despite the gloomy feeling after watching the movie, we both love the soundtrack!
6 April 2011
5 April 2011
Sadness and difficult moments often get me to open WordPad and write. Like now!
This is that very time when I feel really down and again question what I should do.
Yesterday, I tweeted: I know that God is good, but why do I often misunderstood His goodness? A friend replied by tweeting: So that we will be surprised and amazed by His helping hand.
This difficult time is, I guess the most difficult of all, yet this time I know better: blaming God is never the anwer. Questioning Him is frustating. Worrying is a waste of time.
But, what should I do?
I don't have a clue! What I know is that I need to stay positive, think straight, find a solution, do my best, and let God to take care of the rest.
God is working mysteriously. Like Rowan Atkinson in his film Keeping Mum said: God's mysetrious, deal with it!
Your prayer, support, encouragement, tweets, message, comments, or anything,... will be very much appreciated.
17 March 2011
20 February 2011
So, here I am, just came back from a very meaningful gathering that has given more than happiness and relaxation.
A few things I learned today:
- There are no boundaries in friendship. Being a friend for someone means you just got to accept both this friend's good and bad sides. Even if you must always be the one, who should have a bigger heart, a forgiving heart.
- You just can't stop being friends! Hardship, happiness, distance, time, money, mental disorder, success,.. nothing can cancel a friendship - unless you say so.
- A spouse is someone, who is not always giving you good, easy time. A spouse should be someone, who will always challenge you, giving you hard time, if necessary, for the sake of being a better person.
- Finally, I learn today that a couple is two people sharing their dream - not necessarily have to share the same vision - but they should understand each other's dream, and help each other to seize it.
- And most importantly, I learn that HTM (public transport company in the Hague) is much more reliable than NS (train company in the Netherlands). Thank you for bringing me home safely, HTM!
14 February 2011
Okonomiyaki is a Japanese savoury pancake containing a variety of ingredients. The name is derived from the word okonomi, meaning "what you like" or "what you want", and yaki meaning "grilled" or "cooked".
Due to my curiosity, I went to dinner with my friends, and was really happy to finally enjoy a portion of Okonomiyaki, or the waiter told me, Japanese pancake.
In the end of this first time experience, I can conclude that I quite liked Japanese pancake. Yet, it is not something I can (or would like to) have every month, if I still want to see the same number on my weight-scale.
The taste is very savoury - salty and heavy. As a truly Indonesian, I would add some spicy sauce (like Sambal ABC) to the pancake.
The place is too small, so you kinda need to squeeze in. yet the good thing is everyone has to reserve to be able to eat there (or if you are very lucky, you can just get in).
So, maybe I will go there next month or two to pay my second visit :)
3 January 2011
Last month, Stefy celebrated his birthday. And as a suprise (I love surprises!), I booked a table in a vietnamese restaurant in the Hague, Little V. Some friends have been mentioning this restaurant to us, but we just never had the time to try. And in fact, you need to reserve your table before coming. It's always busy!
So, there we were, for stefy's birthday dinner.
To start, we ordered nothing else than the famous vietnamese spring roll for appetizer! I used to have a vietnamese roommate, and she made a tasty spring roll. Hoping the spring roll would be as good as, I was very happy that it definitely tasted yummy! The dip made the taste even more yummy!
For main courses, we ordered something with white fish, stir-fry beef and veggies, and seafood curry. They all taste WONDERFUL! Love them so much! We also ordered fried rice (instead of only white rice), and it tasted just like Hongkong fried rice in Indonesia. Yum yum yum!
Oh, and the teapot was really unique!
I ordered Vietnamese ice tea, which turned out to be all ingredients for Soto Ayam mixed with Ice and some tea :P It's true tho, there were ginger, lemon grass, and lime!! If you added chicken, bean sprouts and eggs, it could be a portion of Soto Ayam :) But it wasn't! This was a delicious, Vietnamese Ice Tea. Yummy!
And this is the birthday boy! :)
So Little V Den Haag is definitely recommended.
2 January 2011
Thus, to honor that tradition, here are some of my new year resolution:
1. Start and finish reading the whole bible. This has ALWAYS been listed in my New Year resolution, but always ended up being wiped off. But, this year I will give it another try. And this year, this is my priority! :)
2. Seriously start to plan my wedding: to decide when to get married is the priority, which then will be followed with other details like venue, dresses, etc. And also to be wiser with saving money.
3. In relation to my second resolution, I need to plan my future job: what will I do when I go back to Indonesia. Will I be a teacher? Will I be a lecturer? Will I open my own business?
Resolution number 2 and 3 might be a bit confusing for you who haven't really met us in person. Stefy, my fiancee, and I are currently living in the Netherlands. He is going back to Indonesia, just before summer 2011, and my working contract is until September 2011. What's next? That's the part we haven't quite figured out yet. I might be staying a bit longer, while Stefy is working on his business in Indonesia. Or, I might be following him, getting married soon after I arrive in Indonesia, and work in Indonesia. So, yes, we are still puzzeled about our future plan. But, the Us-part is certain :)
4. Spend more time with friends, socialising and having fun with them. I know this may involve a little bit more extra spending. But, why not?
5. Love one another and don't judge people by the first impression.
This is my weakness that I need to work on. I need to be more loving and passionate to people, especially to those who are close to me. It's hard, isn't it? We often tend to put people in boxes a second we meet them or get to know them a bit better. But, this year, I will try to avoid this.
6. Finally, the most important thing, to be less bitter.
My life hasn't been easy: hence my bitter attitude. But I'm so glad that this morning, at church, I was again encouraged. Troubles don't happen in our lives just to tease us. Troubles exist to make us a better person. It's like your school exams. When you pass the exams, you can go to the next level. Or like in games, when you have to beat more and more difficult monsters by the time your reach a higher level; but defeating the monster will make you go to the next level, which will be more fun and also challenging!
So, here are my new year resolutions. I will enter this new year with a confidence and attitude to be a better person.
So, let me close this post by sharing a wonderful quote shared by the speakers in my church this morning: David & Hillary Porrit.
“God loves you just the way you are, but He refuses to leave you that way. He wants you to be just like Jesus. ” — Max Lucado
Have a happy, prosperous, and challenging new year!
The year of 2010 is about facing the reality and making choices
This midnight, looking back at the past 12 months I've been through, I questioned myself what I have done, what I have learned. I pondered on what good things happened - any luck or fails?
There have been tons of things happened to me. I started this year with a visit to Indonesia, meeting my friends and family, which had given me more clarity that I would go home to Indonesia at some point, soon. It was followed with my temporary project working at the embassy of Republic Indonesia, which was a definite eye-opener about the reality I would face in the future. Then the luck happened! Actually God happened. I was given the most precious gift: I got a proper, always-been-my-dream, job.
And these are the highlights of my 2010.
But the number of things I have learned are more than that of what has happened in 2010.
I have learned that it's not what happens to you, it's what you do about it (W. Mitchell).
In the past, when problems occurred, I tended to blame other things but me: their faults, wrong people, unfairness, difficult situation, no opportunity; and even worse, I used to blame God!
I am so thankful that this year, I got to see problems differently. I could now work some ways out to solve the problems. Instead of focusing my attention to other things, I have tried to focus on myself. Not blaming myself, though, but I have tried to find a way to do something about the problem. If you want to use an academic term, what I've done is to make a problem analysis. Then, I posted an objective, of which the goal is always to get the problem solved, as possible as it could be.
Following the first lesson, I have also learned to make a hard choice. A friend of mine said that being with the 'one' is like enjoying your perfect meal. If you still crave for other meals, you have not yet found the 'one'. This year, I made my final choice to be with 'the perfect meal'. I am not saying it happened on one revelation night, like when Gabriel came to the virgin Mary. It's has become a continuous strife. But again and again, I am reminded and am back to enjoy my "perfect meal".
And it's like all the fears, worries, doubts about love and questions I've had about relationship and marriages have been wiped away. Ah, it makes me want to sing "you are the only exception."
Apart from love relationship, I also have learned a lot in the area of friendship. There are friends that love you unconditionally and love you as who you are. There are also people that seem to be your friends, but they occur to be just someone who happen to be at the same place, at the same time, and sharing some similar thoughts. For some time, it seems that you are good buddies. But when the common things did no longer exist, all the binds that for a moment seems like a true friendship, were gone.
So really value your friendship. Be kind to people, especially to your close friends, and love them unconditionally too. It reminds me of my favourite quote from the Soloist: "Sometimes friends piss each other off, right? It's part of the deal." Friends will disappoint you, for goodness' sake! But it's just part of the deal. This is where you need to learn to forgive and forget.
All of these things make me want to mention One Friend to whom I have to send my deepest gratitude and apology, too: God. Jesus, I haven't been good this year; I wasn't the nicest one this year. But I thank You for all the things I have done and learned. Thanks for giving me a smile, thanks for giving me a slap on my face once in a while. I promise, in 2011, I'll be better.
Happy new year, my dearest readers. May your 2010, which has made you who you are today, has prepared you to embrace the new 2011. Be ready to have fun!
"There are no mistakes or failures, only lessons." (Dennis Waitley)