I believe you have heard about the shooting drama happened last weekend in a small town in the Netherlands, called Alphen aan de Rijn.
The morning of Monday 11 April, all headlines of the national newspapers were: WAAROM? (or WHY?)
I reckon this headline can go with any bad circumstances in our lives: a relative passed away, continuous financial problems, jobless situation, tsunami, war, poverty, breaking up after having been together for a long time, your partner is cheating on you,... you name it!
That's often what we ask when something bad happens in our lives. We try to find the reason why such bad things happen: is it my fault? did I do something wrong? is it God's punishment? did s/he actually love me? am I not good enough? am I stupid? is it karma?
And we are often stuck in this drama of asking why, of finding explanation to what happen to us, to our society.
I guess what we need to ask instead is How? or What can I do to change this circumstance?
Finding solution would be better than finding reasoning.
How? will give us a sense of hope: a hope that there is actually a way to make things better, to change the situation.
Anyway, I am telling you this because I am at the situation where I could have cried out to heaven asking WHY? but I, trying to be very optimistic, replace the question with How?
And to be honest, it ain't easy, but it works!