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All Men Are Liar!

It was the first thing that went through my mind when I witnessed my colleague going out with another girl that was definitely not his girlfriend (because the girlfriend I know is currently abroad until July). It is really hard to witness that, not because I am close to any of them; yet it is so hard to think of my own relationship.

This couple is the meant-to-be-together kind of couple that has been going on for more than three years, yet now, the guy went out with another girl when his girlfriend is out of town.

Another friend has confessed to me that he has hurt a girl once. He was having this special relationship with his colleague when he was actually at the stage of getting married (and also when he just got married). He ended up hurting this girl so bad that this girl didn't want any kind of contact with him. I can fully understand.

Both of them stated similar thing "it's just for fun!"

Oh yeah, give me a break!

It is so hard to think of this real stories that happened really close to my life. I cannot help to think of my own relationship. I cannot help to be suspicious.

Some years a go, a good friend of mine mentioned similar thing "all men are like that. Even your boyfriend is most likely now going out with someone else while you are here!" It was his reaction when I said that I was sure that my long distance relationship had been very well, and I was sure that my boyfriend was faithful.

Do you think that all men are cheaters?

Do you think that all men wanna always have some fun?

To be honest I am still holding on to my opinion. I don't think all men are cheaters or liars. Yes, they are all tempted, just like all the women are. All men face similar battles, but I am sure every man has different approach to fight (or give in to) the battle.

Some men might see the battle as an "opportunity" to escape and have fun. Some might see the battle as a challenge that has to be fought and tackled. Some might see the battle as very normal and giving in. Some might see the battle as the villain that they have to destroy.

Thus, do not always think that all men are cheaters, but if you happen to meet one that are a cheater or a liar, just make sure never get involved with him.

I really need to thank this film called Jane Austen Book Club, which has shown me a hope. When I have pondered why men are such cheaters, and whether they were always like that, and whether my man is like that; this film showed that there are men that are really faithful, who would fight for his love. There are also men who might slipped away, but realised his mistake, apologised, and came back. They are also some men who are so clueless, but because of love, he was fighting for his relationship.

Hence this writing.

I hope this writing also gives hope to you.

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