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Friends or Nothing at All? - Part 2

And how is it now?

My recent friction with my so-called best friend
has made me realize that sometimes, we think that we are so close to someone yet the feeling is actually not mutual. As I often move around from one place to another, people that become close to me overtime will automatically receive a ‘Friend’ badge from me. But, the fact is that they are merely acquaintance; we just become close to me overtime – because of the situation and condition: thus, this is what I actually am for him.

One thing I learned from this experience is that mutuality. He apparently doesn’t invest as much effort as I do to the friendship.

So what should we do? What should I do in the future? I learn that if I want to really invest and build a new friendship, I need to ask these questions: Does this person invest as much effort as I do to the relationship? Will this person give as much time as I will to the relationship? And will this person accept you for better and for worse as much as I will? If they don’t, does it mean that when we can forget this person, hate and not befriend with this person anymore? No.

We can still be an acquaintance or just friends. We can go out together if we feel like it. We can plan to have a cooking night if we think it would be fun. But, if one of the parties decides not to hang out together anymore, none of the parties should feel guilty or feel sorry. We just move on and find another acquaintances or hang out friends to hang out with.

Another lesson learned is that best friends and family can make mistake. They might have done us wrong, have made us upset, but who doesn’t make mistake? We need to think through and see that they really didn’t mean to hurt us. They just made a mistake that might have hurt us. If you think they are truly your best friends or family, you must forgive and forget. Otherwise, yeah, you might end up just like me, losing a little family that you used to have.

It is pathetic really that because of one situation, you finally realized that someone that you thought was your best friend was actually no more than acquaintance, and the ones that you thought no longer meant anything in your life are still your very best friends and family after all.

Shoot!

I will end this post by sharing my final pyramid of friendship and a promise that I will try to reunite my ‘family’ members, trying to mend the broken relationship. I hope this time they’d see that I put as much effort as they have done.



The higher the pyramid, the smaller the shape is, which means the more difficult it is to keep and maintain it. Don’t lose it!


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a.k.a. Nez said…
ooooooh, good point to put also "family" in the pyramid. Masukan bagus nih buat "pyramid"-ku hehe :D Def. we should put "family" on top, over everything else. Sometimes we are too busy hanging out with friends... we could have forgotten that family matters... the most.

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