It occurs to me that marriage life ain't that fun! Don't you agree?
(LOL, please continue reading this if you find my first statement a bit annoying or offensive for some. )
I was quite reluctant to get married a few months ago, just because I'd seen so many marriages that just didn't work, for many different reasons. I just didn't want to bury myself, neither I want to fall into the same hole.
But now I am (more) open to the idea of marriage, but it occurs to me that people that already got married (that I know or hear about) don't enjoy the fun as much as we, the singles.
Agree, disagree?
Here, let me share some stories I heard about marriage couples I know or met:
And some more similar statements that I think it is very peculiar, or rather very boring.
I hope I can still have male friends and go out with them when I am married. I hope I can go out with my girl friends, can sleep over at their places once in a while, or join some fun activities.
In Indonesia, we have a saying "nanti orang bilang apa?" which means "what people would say about it." Going out with male friends, I guess it is a quite sensitive issue. Thus, I guess some of my Indonesian girl friends are dealing with this issue. However, imho, if you are open with your husband about it, you can just ignore about what people are saying about it, toch?
Anywaayyy, since I am not yet married, I don't think I am the right person to tell you what to do.
I am just sharing my thoughts here :D
(LOL, please continue reading this if you find my first statement a bit annoying or offensive for some. )
I was quite reluctant to get married a few months ago, just because I'd seen so many marriages that just didn't work, for many different reasons. I just didn't want to bury myself, neither I want to fall into the same hole.
But now I am (more) open to the idea of marriage, but it occurs to me that people that already got married (that I know or hear about) don't enjoy the fun as much as we, the singles.
Agree, disagree?
Here, let me share some stories I heard about marriage couples I know or met:
- "Sally, I can't sleep over at your place anymore. I am married now. It's different now. My husband wouldn't like it."
- "Do you want to help at this event? It is one week event. You can earn extra money." "No, I am married now. It's different."
- "Hey, where is James? You are quite close to him, right? I haven't seen him for agess!" "Yeah, I hardly see him now. Hm, you know, I'm married. I don't think it's not right to have a male friend when you are married."
- "Hey, let's have a cuppa tea next week." "Next week? I guess I have to ask my husband whether I am allowed to have a cuppa tea next week." "Do you have any plans with him?" "No, just I need to ask his permission."
And some more similar statements that I think it is very peculiar, or rather very boring.
I hope I can still have male friends and go out with them when I am married. I hope I can go out with my girl friends, can sleep over at their places once in a while, or join some fun activities.
In Indonesia, we have a saying "nanti orang bilang apa?" which means "what people would say about it." Going out with male friends, I guess it is a quite sensitive issue. Thus, I guess some of my Indonesian girl friends are dealing with this issue. However, imho, if you are open with your husband about it, you can just ignore about what people are saying about it, toch?
Anywaayyy, since I am not yet married, I don't think I am the right person to tell you what to do.
I am just sharing my thoughts here :D
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Eniwei, I also have the same thought abt marriage life. I hope, I still have a LOOOOTTT of fun with friends.
Salam kenal ya :)
lagipula, kadang aku berpikir bahwa sebenarnya orang2 yang kamu sebutin di nomor 1-4 itu bisa jadi emang suka diperlakukan demikian. so, it's not that they felt oppressed by their husband.
nah, kalau memang merasa terganggu dengan perlakukan suami yang begitu, ya harus berjuang untuk mendapatkan kebebasan yang kita inginkan. asal bukan kebabasan yang berlebihan. :)
and the hell what people said about us. they don't live our life, why should we care?
@poe: yes, some of my friends do enjoy be treated like that, which kinda amazed me! how could they?? :P
I still have some friends who can still have fun after they got married. so, if I ever get married, I hope can be like them.