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Umm,... it's nice



How often do you get this response from a friend, or colleague?

And how often do you get this from your close friend of even your boyfiend or girlfriend, or your partner, or your husband or your family?

I find it kinda disturbing when people don't really have opinion, especially if they are quite close to you.

Especially when it comes to choosing place to go, or place to eat.

A: Where are we going for dinner?
B: Up to you
A: What do you want to eat?
B: Um,.. I don't know. Up to you.
A: Chinese?
B: Umm,.. we went there last week!
A: Italian?
B: Hm, it's crowded on thursday evening
A: Indonesian
B: Oh, come on, we can cook Indonesian ourselves!
A: .... *not talking anymore*

Why don't you just say what you want! and even if it means not going anywhere for dinner, it'd be better than saying 'up to you!'

I guess living in a country, where the people are very direct, has taught me to express what I think or what I feel. And I kinda expect people to do the same.

Don't you think the world would be a better place if there is no such thing like back-stabbing, talking behind your back, gossipping,... And I guess all it starts with honesty and expressing your true opinion.

What do you think?


Comments

dira indira said…
aku suka bilang yang sejujurnya, tapi dibilang galak :( menurut mereka its a harsh comment tapi menurutku that the ugly truth...mungkin memang penyampaiannya musti baik ya, tapi khan gak gampang ya the ugly truth dipoles2 ya tetep aja ugly :(
Oma Nia said…
ugly truth could be painful, but it's better than telling beautiful lie, isn't it?

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