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Housemate or Best Friend?

Haven't been blog-walking for a while, and I went to Nez' blog this morning (Hallo, Nez, pa kabar? gimana irsyad? :) )

She wrote a post about friendship and I can't help but reposting this following quote from Friends the series:

“I like you as a person, Monica, and I wanna stay friends with you. But if we’re being roommates I cannot see that coming… and I don’t want that.”

(Phoebe said to Monica)

Having had several housemates, I couldn't agree more! I regret my decision to be housemates with a very good friend. Yes, unlike Phoebe and Monica, we have become strangers now. We never talk anymore, we never say hi. Well, it hurts, but well I have moved on.

I reckon the older we are, the more complex we have become, and the less flexible we have become. In the past, noisy housemate wouldn't be a problem, now you feel like you want to strangle him. In the past, you may tolerate dirty dishes or dirty clothes laying around the house (you just didn't give a damn!), but now, you would become grumpy.

The bottomline is you just need your own space, you need more privacy (yes, especially if you have lived in the Netherlands for years and year, where privacy is a must!).

so, what's your choice? Having a housemate or a best friend?

Comments

bulan said…
some 'usual' friend could turn as a best housemate, and some bestfriends are should be stay as bestfriends without being housemate as well.

I do learn that as well. We can being a devoted bestfriend because we live separately. Kadang2 memang ada menginap bersama, tp kita semua ga pengen utk jd housemate bersama.

Tapi emang makin tahun ke tahun, as we growing old, we demand living in our private space. Setelah married kan, kita 'berbagi' kembali hidupnya :)
nez said…
aduhhhh!!! lagi2 baru tahu kalo dikau mention aku di post ini. my oh my, knp ga muncul di blogstats ku ya? :S

will send you a message see if we can meet up (with irsyad too!) before end of april, wait up!

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