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Being married, being nosy and being pregnant


After more than 3 months of being a wife, I would say there are ups and downs. I would say, I enjoy it most of the time, but there are times when I really feel like strangling someone – this has to do with the second and third parts of the titles (I will come to that later).

Well, being married means spending the rest of your life just with one person – and that starts at home. Living in home just with the two of us – thank God for this! – we spend most of our time watching DVD or cooking at home. I don’t know whether this is a post honey moon period, or is this something that we enjoy. But the point is we love spending time at home.

Mr. S (well, let’s call him that from now on, as calling him Bang Tepy wouldn’t do him any justice anymore) is working more than 8 hours a day. And he is mostly mobile. So, when it is time to come home, he savors every minute of it – watch TV (especially football highlights or any random football programs, which I hate so much – well I come to that in my next post), nibble, read his comics, and snuggle with me J As for me, I don’t mind staying at home, but I like going out too. In the past, Stefy had been exhausted with my schedule, by now he is used to it.

We love all the things that we do together, BUT, we, or personally I, do not enjoy the household activity. It is tiring! After working the whole day, and we still need to wash dishes (we love the cooking part, but not the cleaning up part), hover the house, water the garden, fix broken things, and the list goes on.

A fight or two has happened, but well, despite some downs, we enjoy being married.

This brings us to the second and the third topics I’d like to whine. If you haven’t heard, Indonesians are very nosy citizens. Oh my goodness! How often have I met people, some of them are random people, like my mom’s colleague or my mom’s old friend, or my classmates from high school – and the first thing they would ask after they know I just got married: ARE YOU PREGNANT? Or if they already know that I am not pregnant, the question will be more interesting: WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO GET PREGNANT?

Give me a break, people! Do you also want to do how we did it? How often? Where?

Well, in fact, Mr.S’s friends are THAT nosy. They shared with each other the ‘process’ of how the husband knocked down the wife. YES, that scary! I made Mr. S swear he would never ever do that!

So, despite being happily married, I dislike people’s nosiness to investigate my fertility. But I was told, that's how people around here is. 

So, if you must know whether I am pregnant, No, I am not. Do I want to? Yes, one day. Not in the near future :)

Comments

bulan said…
LOL.. welcome to my world :D #loh, dont worry after 2 years people do not that noisy anymore, but afterall, i dont want to know what they talked about me and my fertility behind me :p
Anonymous said…
It's me again :) the one who loved your "i don't give a damn attitude" lolz

I've been married for 5 going 6 years now, and first few years was kinda filled with the same stupid question you experienced yourself, the pregnant kinda thing.
I don't hear them quite much lately :)

Btw, ni fenny, your ex co-worker in one of isp company :)

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