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Friendship forever

Friendship [frend-ship]: the state of being a friend [dictionary]

This word might seem meaningless for us 5 – 10 years ago. It was merely nice word that we put in the end of our e-mail or in our classmate’s memory book: Friendship forever. Yet, what does this word mean to us right now? How much time do we invest in building our friendship? Or how much time do we have to even think of friendship?

Last week at church, we were taught about having healthy relationship with friends. And I realised that I haven’t done anything to my friendships with any of my friends.

Based on the sermon, there are four sorts of friends: acquaintances, casual friends, close friends, and intimate friends.

And I notice that most of my friendship (levels) I have been downgraded: from intimate to close, from intimate to casual, and even worse, from intimate to acquaintances. These happened because first, distance (because I have moved from one place to another), and of course, quarrels or problems.

I feel embarrassed about this, also sad at the same time. The prior reason is quite acceptable (although with the technology that we nowadays have, it is no longer a good excuse), yet if the latter reason downgrades the level of my friendship, I guess there is something wrong about it.

And it is most likely my mistake.

I often runaway from problems. Also, if I have any quarrels with my friends, I will most likely put the biggest smile on my face, and “let it go” (which, in my dictionary, means bottle it up). These actions have big impact in my relationship: I lost my intimate friends because of this.

The sermon last week has made me realise that I should make peace with myself and try to settle this friendship issue, which includes: make peace with friends I have had problems with, reconnect with old classmates or friends (chatting, sending e-mail, or calling), and let go (as the real letting go action) tiny issues that had come between me and my friends and befriend with them again.

This resolution will be taken into my New Year resolution. Speaking of New Year, it is like 7-8 weeks before the new year begins. WOW!

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