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Perlukah bilang sayang?

Kalau kamu sayang sama seseorang, peri peri mat (very very much), dan orang itu actually tahu kalo kamu sayang sama dia. Menurutmu, perlu ngga bilang kalau kamu sayang dia? Perlu ngga mention again and again kalau kamu bener-bener sayang sama dia?

"Ah, dia pasti uda tahu lah, kan aku nunjukin rasa sayangku lewat perbuatan." Itulah kata seseorang yang saya kenal.


Ada lagi yang bilang "Aduh, Nie, gue nih uda pacaran bertahun-tahun. Dari jaman kita masih cinta monyet, uda jutaan kali gue bilang kalo gue sayang ama dia. Sekarang ya kayaknya uda ga perlu lagi lah! Kalo gue ga sayang ama pacar gue, ya gue ga pacaran ama dia sekarang."

Hm,... interesting thought.

"Yeah, itu bukan suatu kebutuhan. Kalo pengen ngomong ya ngomong. Kalo emang lagi ga mood, kalo gue lagi capek, ya sebodo amat! Ngga penting lah!" gitu komentar (implicitly) teman jalan saya tadi malam.

Hm,... good point of view.


Kalau menurut Nie, yang mungkin mewakili sejumlah perempuan lain di dunia, ucapan kata 'sayang' itu sangat penting. Mungkin kita uda ratusan, ribuan, bahkan jutaan kali mendengar kata 'Aku sayang kamu' atau 'I love you' atau buat wong jowo, 'kula tresna panjenengan'. Tapi, setiap kali mendengarnya, sepertinya ada assurance bahwa ada orang yang sayaaaang banget sama kita.


Buat Nie, setiap moment terucapnya kata magic itu, selalu berharga. Kadang Nie yang lagi cemberut bisa mulai tersenyum. Kadang Nie yang lagi bad mood bisa sedikit bersemangat. Kadang Nie yang lagi gembira jadi feeling romantic kalau mendengarnya. Entah ada khasiat apa di dalam kata-kata itu, yang pasti setiap Nie mendengarnya, Nie gembira.

Ya, perempuan memang kadang aneh, tapi boleh dicoba khasiat kata-kata sayang ini. Emang perbuatan dan tindakan juga penting. Kalau cuma kata-kata cinta aja, plus rayuan gombal, yang diucapkan, kami, para perempuan juga eneg. Yet, kalau perbuatan dibarengi dengan kata-kata sayang yang diucapkan secara continuous, akan membuat hubungan makin harmonis (ciee,.. Nie uda kayak counselor pernikahan aja neh!)

So, do it more often, peepz. It doesn't hurt, does it? Dan buat para pria, jangan pernah bilang "aku terlalu capek untuk bilang sayang hari ini" atau "aku lagi ngga mood", karena mengucapkan 3 kata 'Aku Sayang Kamu' rasanya tidak sedikit pun mengurangi kalori atau mengurangi jam tidur Anda.

Bukan begitu?

Comments

pOe said…
mungkin dia nggak bilang sayang PADA SAAT ITU karena at that particular moment emang lagi ngerasa nggak sayang sama seseorang tersebut. yah, alasan paling masuk akalnya ya lagi marah kali...

but eniwei, pengucapan magic words itu emang penting kok...

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