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Untuk pertama kalianya, Oma takut nikah

Hari ini Oma denger dua orang cerita tentang pengalaman pacaran more than 6 years, dan akhirnya memutuskan untuk menikah - live happily ever after- tapi after some years, mereka decided to get divorced.

Is it normal? to hear TWO stories with the same theme, same storyline, in ONE day?

Takut nikah.

Kata temen Oma tadi, ekspektasi kita pas pacaran ama pas nikah beda.
Pas nikah lebih dalem, lebih kompleks ekspetasinya.

Siang ini
Pas di jalan pulang, Oma mikir
dan nulis shout di FB "wanna runaway, but officially no longer can"

Iphien pun commented on it
"Kamu bisa ngga bayangin hidup dengan Stefy?"
Pertanyaan persis sama, yang Oma ajukan pada Iphien beberapa bulan lalu.

Minggu lalu, ketemu teman lain lagi, dan kami membicarakan peristiwa divorce-nya dia, yang baru aja terjadi awal tahun ini.
Dia bilang sih karena emang dari awal uda ga cocok.
Mereka bertahan karena anak semata wayangnya mereka.

Sigh...

Kali ini Oma serius, Oma takut nikah.
Dan nampaknya hari ini topik nikah hilang dari pembicaraan Oma dengan Bang Tepy. Padahal biasanya Oma selalu heboh, seru, dan excited untuk ngomongin rencana nikah.

Takut.
Dan takut bilang Bang Tepy juga.


p.s. menjawab pertanyaan Iphien, jawabannya BISA! Tapi, the question is: will my marriage turn out to be a good one? or will it suck like any other marriages?
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The tai-tai (wannabe) said…
I think you both will have an amazing marriage! Dont worry! Because you guys have passed the ultimate test, being on long distance relationship and worked that out!

I feel very optimistic for you guys. I hope this cheer you up.

xo
17:00
Anonymous said…
Padahal biasanya Oma selalu heboh, seru, dan excited untuk ngomongin rencana nikah.

===> hm hm.. kenapa wanita suka antusias membicarakan nikah ? biasanya cowo (baca: saya), langsung mengalihkan pembicaraan haha..
08:46
a.k.a. Nez said…
Hmmm... Tujuan nikah bukan buat live happily ever after..ya ga? Nikah itu "proyek".Proyek ya kadang mulus, kadang gak.Nanti ada saat2 senang.Tapi bakal ada saat2 susah.Mungkin (mungkin lo ya) pernikahan bisa gagal because they only prepared for the best, and forgot (or failed) to prepare for the worst.

Thing is, when the worst comes, remember that you have your love, his love, and God's love. As long as you hold on to them, you'll be safe and sound ;)

There, just my 2 cents. (Walah..2 cents aja panjang bgt...Hehehe)
15:00
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